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  • Jay Trisko

As hard as I try, I can never seem to optimize my kids

As a parent of a 5 and 7 year old who works as a digital marketer, everything in my life is about optimizing. I optimize my diet for optimal health (after i get fastfood), I optimize my work out routine to maximize results with the least amount of effort, I optimize my calendar to get the most done in the least amount of time, so why in the world, can I not optimize my kids to not get wired when I say "bed time", follow my directions before the 5th times, and learn to make meals for themselves, hey the last one my be a bit greedy so we will stick with the first two.

As I logged on to research some solutions to be able to survive these times at home with my kids 24/7 and trying to maintain a livlihood, I came across an awesome article that I wanted to share.

Come to find out, Children are self-optimizing. They naturally go after what they need to grow. Have you ever wondered why young children do so many things that seem designed to drive us crazy? It’s because kids are wired to know what they need, and they are very good at getting it. From a young age, normally developing kids primarily need only three things.

Which I found out from coming across a very inspiring article from forge.com

You Don’t Need to Optimize Your Kid

Most kids really only need three simple things to develop well

Written by Alison Escalante MD

By the end of their baby’s checkup, the new parents looked at me earnestly and asked, “What should we do to be optimizing her development?”

The very first time a parent asked me this, the question stopped me in my tracks. I wasn’t quite sure how to answer — after all, this was a brand new baby they were talking about. All newborns do is eat, poop, sleep, and occasionally look around. They come pre-optimized.

Still, I get these questions in my pediatric practice all the time. By the time my patients are toddlers, their parents want to discuss enrichment classes.

The pressure to start maximizing our child’s development in infancy leaves us little time to enjoy them. Instead, we’re driven by anxiety: Which developmental toys should we buy? What activities should we offer? Should we speak in verbal progressions? Should we get that app that’s supposed to turn kids into geniuses? Parenthood is a storm of “should” fueled by the pressure to get it right for our children.

What parents don’t realize, though, is that the more we try to optimize child development, the more we interfere with it.


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